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Re: What you can control

PK — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:52:26 -0000

This post reminds me of a quote of Edith Wharton's that is the best definition of resilience -

In spite of illness, in spite even of the archenemy sorrow, one can remain alive long past the usual date of disintegration if one is unafraid of change, insatiable in intellectual curiosity, interested in big things, and happy in small ways.

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ra — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 17:51:28 -0000

hear hear! it's hard to do, especially with close family...but ignoring is a good way!

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miapan — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 13:17:44 -0000

Can totally relate to this. In fact, it is recommended that we cull our facebook (or other such networking sites) friends' list once in a while....or as Robin Sharma put it, do a clean sweep and get on with life. But I guess it's easier said than done .....specially in countries like India where people (are relatively more tolerant?) still don't mind living in each other's pockets.

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amreekandesi — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:13:35 -0000

Indeed, in today's harsh climate (literally and figuratively) it is very important to focus on the positives in life, if one wants to lead a happy life!

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Shripriya — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 11:10:33 -0000

You are very welcome!

And yes, so far they are having quite a fun time here - so many new experiences.

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Shripriya — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 11:07:17 -0000

LOL. And good for you! It's hard to be bold and take the step, but once you do, it is awesome :)

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TGFI — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 10:49:52 -0000

Yes ma'am!
:-)

I hope G and J are enjoying sights and sounds in India
..and this post hits home. So thanks again.

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Eileen — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 10:37:45 -0000

hello, it's me stalking you again. LOL - seriously, love this post as I just ended a 17 yr old friendship for exactly the reasons you listed - the psychic energy to be w/her was too great. The interesting part is that she was the one who initiated the falling out by leaving me in a store - when only an hour before she was pontificating about passive/aggressive behavior - ironic. I chose then to end it... and her self-righteous rant she emailed me about my lack of response sealed the deal - I must admit she made it easy, and a heavy burden has been lifted out of my life - free at last!

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Shripriya — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 05:21:04 -0000

When I say "cut them out", I mean do nothing and ignore them.

Finding peace is a daily effort... :)

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Ricky — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 04:02:50 -0000

Always a good advice! A good friend told me once.

The world is made up of 3 types of events.
1) events that I have control
2) events that I have influence
3) everything else
And always be on the look out for opportunity to bring events closer.

For the negative people in my life, I can choose to cut them out, I can choose to be a positive influence for them, and I can choose to do nothing and ignore them.

I hope you find the peace that you desire!